Use and abuse of alcohol have been a frequent topic for discussion in our forum. We have seen number resultant reactions of alcohol abuse and domestic violence is one of them

Alcohol Abuse – The Menace

Alcohol and its consumption as a topic is frequently being visited and more often than normal many regulations keep coming up whose main intent is to curb the consumption of alcohol. All these measures are to primarily stop the abuse of alcohol. Alcoholics often end up involving themselves in such activities that causes both physical and emotional torture and disturbance.


Activities such as driving while intoxicated, domestic violence, partner or spousal violence, health related complications are all the aftermath of alcohol abuse. It is more a menace than a problem. Inspite of number of regulations being laid out to curb the unwanted disturbances as a result of alcohol overdose, activities like driving under the influence of alcohol, partner or domestic violence seem keep happening.

Alcohol Abuse and Domestic Violence

Among the various abuses of alcohol, domestic violence is a predominantly discussed topic. While a section of people believe partner violence or spousal violence is a result of alcohol abuse, others see no correlation between the two. Seriously looking into the issue of domestic violence, in most of the occasions either of the partners is drunk. Which makes it clear that, the chances of violence are more when a person is drunk as he completely looses control over his mind and body.


What is meant by Domestic Violence? It is a state or a condition where the person is subject to both physical and emotional torture like hitting, shoving, beating, verbal abuse and such similar unethical acts causing pain and grief to the victim. Research also makes it clear that in only 25% of the domestic violence cases one of the couple is drunk and such an incident did take place due to alcohol abuse. It also stands to mean that 75% of alcohol abuse cases where not due to alcohol abuse.


Domestic violence also known as spousal violence, dating violence, the victim in all these cases is either the spouse or the dating partner. There are very few cases of alcohol abuse where the victims of domestic violence are parents or any other person. Given the facts domestic violence seems to be a problem more to do with attitude of the people than with the abuse of alcohol.

Addictive behaviors like alcoholism have a devastating effect on every relationship and married life is no exception to it. Every individual tends to get aggressive and rude either due to pressing circumstances or due to the very nature of the individual. While even blood relations fall out due to such irritating and horrible behaviors, married life ordinarily needs a lot of understanding to make it work.

Alcoholism and Married Life

The success of a married life mainly depends on the attitude of individuals and their nature. While it takes a lot even normally to put up certain testing situations in life, imagine the way it would be dealt with irrational behavior and improper reasoning. Here are a few circumstances that are likely to come up.

• Anger and Negative Communication – Alcohol addiction normally makes an individual more aggressive and less reasonable. Heavier the consumption of alcohol the more haphazard will be their thinking ability. Hence alcoholism only leads to more and more of emotional turmoil making the relationship between the couple seriously devastating.
• Psychological Disturbance – It is but obvious that people in such circumstances tend to become psychologically disturbed. Especially where that relationship is that of a husband and wife it is even more sensitive and hurting. Where the couple are psychologically disturbed due to one of their alcohol addiction it tells seriously on their married life.
• Responsibilities – Where a person is completely addicted to alcohol it deprives him or her of their sense of responsibility towards and family, work loved ones. It is certainly a big blow which the other partner should be able to manage it with more maturity and sensibility. Where the other partner is weak it is sure to drive things hard for the relationship and its sustainability.
• Stress in Married Relationships – Due all the above factors stated above the couple are left only left with stress and tension in their relationship. Going far beyond this it is but extremely difficult to maintain emotional stability without proper focus and understanding.

Alcoholism and Violence in Married Life

With unreasonable thinking and no control over senses individuals go crazy with their emotions that they are hardly aware of what kind of reactions they exhibit. In most of the cases the reactions are similar and highly violent. It almost leads to a very severe emotional and physical abuse. The non alcoholic partner normally ends bearing the brunt of a cruel behavior exhibited by the alcoholic partner.

Violence and Alcoholism go hand in hand that almost in every case an alcoholic person ends causing severe damage to the relationship and to his or her partner. In most of the cases alcoholism leads to fall out in the sexual intimacy of the partners which aggravates the circumstance all the more.

Alcoholism and Communication in Married Couples

Alcoholics normally tend to become irrational in their behavior that they mar the peace and serenity in their family lives.

• Verbal abuse and bad mouthing are things of serious concern which causes severe damage to the husband and wife relationship
• Constantly under the influence of alcohol they loose their judgmental and problem solving skills
• Hypersensitiveness, aggressiveness, anxiousness are some of the characteristics of drunkards
• A person under the influence of alcohol tends to be impaired of his or her ability to think reason and react.

It is pretty clear that alcoholism surely has a negative effect in the married lives of people, for that matter in every relationship.